Secrets For A Happier Life May 8, 2017

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Cross over to sunny side
May 8, 2017
 Dear Michael,   
 
“Grab your coat and grab your hat, 
leave your worries on the door step
Just direct your feet to the sunny side of the street
 
I used to walk in the shade with the blues on parade
No longer afraid, the rover crossed over”
 
“On the Sunny Side of the Street” is a 1930 song, with credited music composed by Jimmy McHugh and lyrics by Dorothy Fields.
 
Having become a jazz standard, it was played by such greats as Louis Armstrong, Ted Lewis, Dave BrubeckEarl Hines, Benny Goodman, Lionel Hampton, Erroll Garner, Dizzy Gillespie, Art Tatum, James Booker, Count Basie and Lester Young.
 
On the sunny side of the street goes back many years and its classic message is still popular today.  What is the sunny side of the street and how do we get there?  
 
I invite you to keep reading below:
Michael Selzer DDS

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My journey and exploration into happiness started over 25 years ago.  I grew up in New York City along with my two main heroes Superman and images of riding on a flying carpet.
After multiple years of school  I started a family and moved to sunny Florida.  Family and work grew and I was living the dream with a loving wife, two phenomenal kids and building a thriving dental practice.  I was running from home to the office and from stress to stress, trying to enjoy the cracks of happiness when they arrived.
My plan was to obtain as much enjoyment form those activities that seemed to bring happiness along with them.  But I knew somewhere deep down there was a better way.  The images of superman and the flying carpet still floated in my head.
So back to the song.  A street has two sides a glass of water a top and bottom.  We all know about the glass with water half way and whether it’s half filled or half empty.  Therefore the same fact can be seen in completely opposite viewpoints.  Is the same thing true with the sunny side of the street; is it open solely to interpretation or to your mood in the moment?

And if you are on the dark side of the street, the unhappy side, the question becomes what needs to be done to cross over to the sunny side?

 A puppy’s perspective

                              
 
The answer to a few questions will start you on your happiness journey.
1: would you like to cross over to the sunny side?
2: are you willing to let go of whatever is keeping you prisoner on the darker side?
3: are you willing to practice being happy?
If so then continue and read on.
First imagine a walk to the middle of the street so that you can see both sides.  Give yourself the opportunity to contemplate that you could cross over but you may have some very good reasons and feel full justified in being unhappy and therefore stuck on the unhappy side. You believe that the circumstances of the moment have dropped you there.
The five major categories that can keep you prisoner are
1. wanting more of something that you do not have or wanting less of what you do have;
2. being angry about something and feeling justified about it;
3. feeling restless and antsy;
4. feeling bored; and
5. doubting that you can change your view.
Once you have moved to the middle of the street and have identified which category is holding you prisoner just relax and take a breath or two.  Explore your body and relax some more.  For a moment let whatever you feel to be there without trying to change anything.
Next, recall the practice of building your “happiness well” (described below). Hold the thought and feelings of your happiness well in mind along with the thoughts and feelings of being in prison.  Try to equally balance the intensity of both sides; the happiness well and the prisoner.  Hold both in mind at the same time.
You can practice balancing two thoughts for this with a simple exercise.  Close your eyes and touch your right thumb and index finger together. Get a sense of what that feels like. Now release those fingers and touch your left thumb and index finger together.  Get a sense of how that feels.  Now feel both sides touching at the same time.  It may feel a bit like balancing when riding a bicycle.
It is interesting that you may find with this exercise that the circumstances do not change but your interpretation or need to hold on to the unhappiness dissolves away seemingly all by itself.

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The happiness well is something you make yourself at home.  Take you favorite cup and place it in a safe place where you can see it and leave undisturbed for a week.  Take a piece of paper and a pen.  Cut strips of paper about one half inch wide and leave the paper and the pen next to the cup.  Each day for a week write down one of the happy moments of the day and place that paper into the cup.
At the end of the week you have a cup filled with happiness.  Most of the memories will have faded but you can read through them and let the happiness soak back in. As you happiness well gets deeper and happier it will be easy to recall and balance against the unhappy side.  Feel free to add more happiness to you well.

This may be the answer to the ageold question of, “Why did the chicken cross the road?”  Now you know it was to get to the sunny side of the street.  So cross over don’t be chicken.  And remember when you eat breakfast the happiest eggs you can eat are sunny side up.

 

 
        
      
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Secrets For A Happier Life August 18 2016

Secrets For A Happier Life: Ideas, Inspiration & Practices
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Happiness comes in drops
Thought matches body sensations

Trigger zone for happiness

You can have happiness now

Happiness & Sunshine 24×7
Start where you are
Generosity builds happiness

9-16-2010
Happiness a balance of opposites

Happiness a wave of energy
 
10-28-2010
Happiness a wave of energy
Happiness step by step
Wide eyes for happiness
 
Smiling eyes for happiness
1-27-2011
Edges of happiness
 
Polishing for happiness 
 
3-31-2011
Gaps of happiness
 
Decisions for happiness
 
Pivoting for happiness
 
 Stretch for happiness
 
7-7-2011
 
Pausing for happiness 
 
Oasis for happiness
 
Happiness says me
 
10-20-2-2011s
Silent Smiles
 
A story for happiness
 
Adventure for happiness

 

Fun for happiness
 
Sounds for happiness
 
Salad bar for happiness
 
Stretching for happiness
 
Starting over for happiness

 

5-31-2012
Circle back for happiness

 

8-2-2012

 

10-2-2012
for happiness
Choice for happiness

 

1-24-2013

 

4-5-2013

Letting go for happiness

 

8-23-2013 

Taming your habits for happiness

 

1-13-14 

Grandmothers for happiness

 

2-11-14 

Ice skating for happiness

 

2-12-2014 

From nothing to

happiness

 

3- 12-2014 

Walking in the rain for happiness 

 

5-6-2014 

Stringing moments for happiness

 

6-12-2014 

Isn’t that interesting for happiness

 

7-09-2014 

Adventure for happiness

 

8-20-2014 

Getting squeezed for happiness

 

1-20-2015

Dissecting for happiness

 

4-8-15 

Growing happiness

 

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Creating for happiness

Watch what you do 
August 18, 2016
 Dear Michael,   

Standing with skis on at the top of a multi diamond run. Walking out of the tunnel into a stadium in the middle of a game. Looking out from the top of a mountain after a long climb.
 
Moments that take your breath away and invite you to breathe in both a deep breath of fresh air along with a full inspiration of the beauty all around you.
 
 
Last months newsletter One Minute For Happiness* reviewed relaxing into five one minute moments to allow accumulated stress to drop away. This newsletter refines, deepens and expands these moments into a stress free flowing day. 
 
I invite you to continue reading below
Michael Selzer DDS

Small Moments Of Happiness
How to do this:
The technique has three steps which are done for each of the same five repetitive activities of your daily schedule. Such as brushing your teeth, preparing a cup of coffee, tea or juice, washing your dishes, starting your car, answering the telephone, opening a door, etc.
Select any five repetitive activities you do each day. For the first 15 to 60 seconds of each one each day do the three steps outlined below.
1. Relax 2. Breathe 3. Clear
Relax — right at the start of the activity or as soon as you remember, just relax. Soften your stance

, slow down and settle for an instant into the moment. You might look up and notice and acknowledge where you are.
Breathe — draw in a slow deep breath holding your breath in for an instant and breathe out slowly.
Clear — your mind of any thoughts other than the details of the activity that you are doing. Focus all of your attention on the physical movements you are making and the physical sensations you are feeling.

 A puppy’s perspective

                              
 
For example if the the activity is opening a door as you reach for the door knob or as you touch the door knob relax slightly. Relax just enough to become aware of a change or shift in your body’s  sense of muscle tone.
Next place attention on a slow deep breath in and out along with the bodily sensation of breathing.
 

 

And third clear your mind of any thoughts other that what it feels like to be opening the door.
Reaching, touching the knob, turning your hand, pushing the door, lifting your foot, moving forward as the door opens, etc. For a few seconds allow all thoughts of past and future, gains and loses, right and wrong, memories and plans etc to drop away. Just the effort of concentration on the details of what you are doing will allow you to drop the stickiness you have to dropping those other lingering thoughts.
You will most likely notice, for a moment, that you have a choice to either relax as you continue with whatever the activity is that you are doing or to push ahead just as you were before the beginning of this exercise.
However, the longer you hold onto the relaxation and continue with the activity the more the softening into the moment resonates.  As the echo of this resonant ease reverberates and grows you will find more and more activities become easier to accomplish.  Your daily stress level will drop and you will start to have more stress free flowing moments to enjoy.
*The previous newsletter reviewed a random noticing of five moments scattered during the day. When the same five activities are used each day the practice and its benefits deepens. Feel free to add additional random moments as they arise.

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The five 1 minute happiness breaks can be expanded with proportionate benefits up to and including a once a year celebration of happiness.
 
In the Jewish Tradition, as I interpret it, this is the High Holiday of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur.  This is a time of extended focus of introspection and connection to our deepest self and extending further through others, community and into the mysterious beyond.
About  10 years ago I was fortunate to be invited to join a group of students studying with Rabbi Akiva Mann.  A quick summary of this teaching, for me, has led me to be able to appreciate the seamless connection between the moment within the hour, the wave within the ocean and the spirit within everything.  That is to relax and soften into contact with more and more happy minutes.  And also to appreciate more of the diversity that surrounds us and to interconnect with it.
This year Rabbi Akiva will be leading High Holiday Services in Boca Raton.  He has assembled many decades of understanding that has melded into an ability to share his insights and teachings as a multidimensional experience of warmth and happiness, insight and understanding.
Rabbi Akiva and our community at IJKL invite you to join us for High Holiday Services.  If you have attended High Holiday Services before and wished you could have become more connected, more engaged and with more enjoyment this is the place to be for this years Service.

Start by selecting one minute for happiness five times a day and prepare for a High Holiday Service to open the Gate beyond Gates.

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