Secrets For A Happier Life 7-7-2011

Secrets For A Happier Life: Ideas, Inspiration & Practices

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Michael D Selzer DDS


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Jumping to the dot July 7, 2011

Dear Michael,   


Just like being able to tell the difference between hot and cold water we can tell the difference between feeling happy or contented and not feeling happy or contented. However, most of the time we are too busy to notice.  


But every now and then we become aware of either being happy while we are in the middle of some activity or we become aware that what is happening is not “allowing” us to be happy.  The place to begin is with that awareness of noticing, “am I happy or not right now.”


I invite you to read more on moving toward happiness.



Michael D. Selzer DDS



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Imagine drawing a line in the shape of a circle.  Next place a dot in the middle of the circle. Let the dot represent howdot image you feel when you are happy.  Let the line of the circle represent all the moments when you become aware of doing something and realize that you are not happy.  


When you have this awareness of not being happy the first question to answer is, “if you have a choice would you prefer to be happier?”  Assuming you said yes continue with the following:


Like a board game you want to move your thoughts from the circle to the dot in the middle.  When you do you will become aware of happier thoughts.  Start by making a short list of what would it take or what would you be doing to feel that you were at the dot in the middle of the circle. 


Contemplate that and get a good feeling of the happiness that is there.  What is that like for you? Write it down.  

For the next hour or day every time you notice you are at the dot make a note of what it is and how you feel.  


Start to notice what your breathing pattern is like when you are at the dot.  Is it fast, slow, smooth, ragged short and choppy or long and flowing?


In theory, which you can easily verify individually for yourself, your state of mind follows your breath and your breath follows your state of mind.  In other words your thoughts can affect the way you breath and your breathing can affect how you are thinking. 


If you hike, take a cable car or a helicopter to the top of a mountain and look out what will you feel? What will yourBREATH YOGA breath be like? Calm and smooth long and slow?  If you become startled by something, do both your thought and breath suddenly stop? In frustration or anger what do you feel and what happens to your breath? If you hold your breath what happens to the flow of your thoughts?  


Any of these outside events that trigger the breathing pattern can go in the opposite direction.  By breathing in a particular pattern you can steer your thoughts or state of mind to mimic the sensations associated with that breath pattern.  If you want to get your adrenalin pumping breathe fast shallow breaths.  If you want to calm and quiet down breathe long slow breaths.


Practice make perfect
If you ask most golfers they will tell you that they swing better and play better golf on the practice range then on the golf course.  And that there is a difference between practicing golf and playing golf.  Playing golf or the piano might be better named performing golf or a performance of the piano.  In the performance there is a continual flow a movement where there is the fruition of the practice but not a continuation of the practice. 


So in the living of life in our daily actions there is a time for practice and a time for performance.  Breathing which is done at both times can be used to act like a tightrope walker’s balance bar.  To be able to use the breath as a balance bar during the performance of life requires practice.


After some practice you may be able to just allow your mind to jump from the outside of the circle to the sense of being at the dot.  You might even put dots up on the wall or light switches in places you will see them as a reminder.



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Breathing practice:


Awareness – notice for a moment what your breath is like right now

Relax – allow what is to be there (this is practice)


Posture – become taller and balanced (imagine an upside down broom stick balancing on your finger)

Container – feel the outside of your body like a container (milk container) holding the breath inside

Attention – keep attention on the flow of the breath going in and out watching its speed and frequency

Sensation – notice the feeling of the abdomen moving in and out and the chest rising and falling, the nostrils flaring and contracting and the temperature of cool air flowing in and warm air flowing out.


A lot to do but this is where the practice helps during the flow of the performance.
To begin: (excerpt from 6-20-11)
Take in a nice long slow full comfortable breath filling the three areas of the lungs.  The lower portion of the lungs is first filled by breathing in and expanding the abdomen.  While holding the abdomen out the middle portion of the lungs is filled by expanding the ribs outward and expanding the chest.  And while holding the abdomen and chest out the top portion is filled by raising the shoulders and collar bones.  The breath is slowly let out in the reverse order.  Start by still holding the abdomen and chest out and release the breath by lowering the collar bones and shoulders.  Then release the chest and finally allow the last of the air to be expressed by pulling in the abdomen.
Think of a tall building with an elevator.  Whatever floor you are on you can take the elevator to a higher or lowerbreath baloon floor.  The breath described above is like the elevator.  If you are calm this breath will lead to joy.  If you are frustrated this breath will lead to calmness.  If you are in a rage this breath will lad back through anger and if continued back through frustration and then to calm etc.
When practiced the posture and awareness and breath automatically respond and you can steer yourself back to a more pleasant mind state and continue with the performance of your daily life.  Life keeps happening and we cannot avoid what we consider bad events nor our immediate reaction to them.  But we can respond rapidly by first practicing and then using the breath to regain our balance, peacefulness and happiness.



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 a circle a few times before lying

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Golf Secrets:  A golfer’s perspective for living in the moment
You have probably read about a smooth swing back and forward.  Try timing the swing with your breath.  Breathe in on the back swing and out on the forward swing.  


Set a tempo of thinking the thought in as you are breathing in during the full length of the back swing and thinking the thought out as you are breathing out during the full length of the forward swing.  


Remember to keep breathing as the club head contacts the ball.  Do not stop breathing do not hold your breath.


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