| Now it gets interesting. Let one tower be your emotional state of happiness (like the wedding was for me) and the other an emotional state of concern, anxiety or worry about the future (like it may rain and its an outdoor wedding and etc.).
The plan is to start on the 27th floor of the concern (whatever it is for you) and want to get to the 27th floor of the happiness. As in the image above pivoting works by descending to a more foundational level then crossing over and then going up the elevator of happiness.
So lets begin with whatever is on your mind RIGHT NOW. It may be I do not have time to read this, I will do it later or it’s raining outside and I forgot my umbrella or my lower back is still sore. Start with where you are right now. The foundational level is just beneath the surface. What does ” I do not have time to read this feel like?” Are you leaning forward? Are you eyes slightly squinted? How is your breath? Short? Fast?
This foundation of sensation is continually there but we miss it most of the time. Instead we usually focus on what we do not want. “I don’t want to read this now I have too much to do.” ” I don’t want to get wet in the rain”. Start to search for the foundation of your thoughts and emotional state. And pin point what it is that you do not want. “I don’t want to spend time on this now”. “I am too busy.” “I don’t want to rush when I read this.” ” I don’t want to miss my appointment by reading this.” ” I don’t have time.” ” I feel rushed. ” “I do not want to have this rushed feeling.” “I feel tight and my face feels hot.” Etc.
Then the pivot. What do you want? When you descend down to the foundational level of 18 from 27 there is a crossover tunnel. You can pivot to what you do want but you have to uncover a good amount of foundation before it really works. The deeper you go the better the result. Too often we focus much more on what we do not want rather than what we do want.
So you have gotten down to a more foundational level. Ask the question what do you want? And then again what do you really want? Going back to my feeling of being rushed and hot what I really want is the relaxed Sunday morning feeling. The still open, slow, deeper breathing, airy, sit back and be comfortable feeling. It feels soft and warm like wearing an old tee shirt.
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Michael D Selzer DDS
you have to descend to a lower more foundational level in order to cross over to the other tower. You can see the upper floors of the other tower but you cannot jump across the divide So if the towers have 35 floors and the cross over tunnels are at 5 and 18 and you are at floor 27 you would need to descend to the more foundational level at 18 or possible 5 to cross over and then you could go up to the 27th floor of the other tower.
Living A Happier Life: Ideas, Inspiration & Practices 