Secrets for Happier Life 4-22-2010

 
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“Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory”

 
 Albert Schweitzer
Be Happy Now April 22, 2010
Dear Michael,   
 

 

Welcome to Secrets For A Happier Life. 
 
Like rain dripping into and filling a bucket, your life can become happier one drop at a time. For over 25 years I have gathered thoughts and experimented with practices related to increasing joy.  I am happy to share them with you. 
 
Yogi Berra is reported to have said, “It’s like deja vu, all over again.”  Was he talking about our lives and how we  seem to be on a merry-go-round bumping into the same problems over and over again?  What does it take to step off into a new direction?   If he were asked how many psychologists it takes to change a light bulb Yogi might have answered, “only one, but the light bulb has to really want to change.”  Are you ready?  How is your light? Your happiness?
 
Right now what can you do to add another drop of happiness to your life?  Remember, happiness is a road you travel along, not a destination.  I invite you to begin with Small Moments of Happiness and Quick Changes below. 
 
Yours truly,  
 
Michael Selzer DDS

 

Small Moments Of Happiness
 

Notice that when you laugh you are happy. Notice especially that when you are laughing your whole body is moving. It’s in motion. You have stopped thinking, have let go and relaxed and allowed your body to move and shake. You are happy for at least that moment. And then like the ripples settling down in a pond the waves and motions of laughter settle back to our routine level of being.

The trick to being happy is to have more small moments of happiness and then let the natural brain chemistry learn to stimulate this happy response more and more often.

 

Quick Changes
 

Right now recall a moment when you were happy. Expand the image of that or the sense of that moment of happiness. Make it big and bigger in your minds eye. Put it on a TV screen, a movie screen, an I-max screen.
                                                                      

Group  SmilesOr, you can also pretend. That’s right, merely make up a good thought. It works just as well. The brain does not differentiate between real and pretend. It just registers a path for each thought. As you have more happy thoughts the path gets deeper and easier to access and reverberate with other thoughts. That’s it. Hold onto the awareness of happiness and let it soak into your body down into your finger tips and toes. 

 

The trick is to continually just let go of unwanted thoughts and replace them with happier ones. Gradually the groove of happy thoughts becomes the routine.

 

Do this practice 3 to 6 times a day or whenever you realize that you are not as happy as you would chose to be. Allow the groove of happiness in the brain’s chemistry to get deeper and deeper.  

Happiness: A Puppy’s Perspective
 

Or just take a puppy to the beach
Austen Eating Sand
1. More drops fill your bucket faster.  Every hour think ten happy thoughts.  They can be real or pretend.  The groove in the brain will get deeper either way.  For those old enough to remember that may be where, “it’s groovy” comes from.
 
2. When an unhappy thought comes up, immediately think the opposite.  Turn it into an opportunity to experience a happy thought when you most need it.  Again, its okay to pretend.
 
3. Before you fall asleep at night review happy thoughts.  Form an intention to continue filling your bucket with happy thoughts tomorrow.  As you sleep the brain continues to process the last conscious thoughts you have.

 

Upcoming topics in future newsletters

*More on how to train your brain
*How awareness to body sensations deepens happiness
*How to enhance the good moments of each day

 

 

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Polishing for happiness 
 
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Oasis for happiness
 
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Sounds for happiness
 
Salad bar for happiness
 
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Choice for happiness

 

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Ice skating for happiness

 

2-12-2014 

From nothing to

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Stringing moments for happiness

 

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Isn’t that interesting for happiness

 

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Adventure for happiness

 

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Getting squeezed for happiness

 

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Dissecting for happiness

 

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Growing happiness

 

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Watch what you do 
August 18, 2016
 Dear Michael,   

Standing with skis on at the top of a multi diamond run. Walking out of the tunnel into a stadium in the middle of a game. Looking out from the top of a mountain after a long climb.
 
Moments that take your breath away and invite you to breathe in both a deep breath of fresh air along with a full inspiration of the beauty all around you.
 
 
Last months newsletter One Minute For Happiness* reviewed relaxing into five one minute moments to allow accumulated stress to drop away. This newsletter refines, deepens and expands these moments into a stress free flowing day. 
 
I invite you to continue reading below
Michael Selzer DDS

Small Moments Of Happiness
How to do this:
The technique has three steps which are done for each of the same five repetitive activities of your daily schedule. Such as brushing your teeth, preparing a cup of coffee, tea or juice, washing your dishes, starting your car, answering the telephone, opening a door, etc.
Select any five repetitive activities you do each day. For the first 15 to 60 seconds of each one each day do the three steps outlined below.
1. Relax 2. Breathe 3. Clear
Relax — right at the start of the activity or as soon as you remember, just relax. Soften your stance

, slow down and settle for an instant into the moment. You might look up and notice and acknowledge where you are.
Breathe — draw in a slow deep breath holding your breath in for an instant and breathe out slowly.
Clear — your mind of any thoughts other than the details of the activity that you are doing. Focus all of your attention on the physical movements you are making and the physical sensations you are feeling.

 A puppy’s perspective

                              
 
For example if the the activity is opening a door as you reach for the door knob or as you touch the door knob relax slightly. Relax just enough to become aware of a change or shift in your body’s  sense of muscle tone.
Next place attention on a slow deep breath in and out along with the bodily sensation of breathing.
 

 

And third clear your mind of any thoughts other that what it feels like to be opening the door.
Reaching, touching the knob, turning your hand, pushing the door, lifting your foot, moving forward as the door opens, etc. For a few seconds allow all thoughts of past and future, gains and loses, right and wrong, memories and plans etc to drop away. Just the effort of concentration on the details of what you are doing will allow you to drop the stickiness you have to dropping those other lingering thoughts.
You will most likely notice, for a moment, that you have a choice to either relax as you continue with whatever the activity is that you are doing or to push ahead just as you were before the beginning of this exercise.
However, the longer you hold onto the relaxation and continue with the activity the more the softening into the moment resonates.  As the echo of this resonant ease reverberates and grows you will find more and more activities become easier to accomplish.  Your daily stress level will drop and you will start to have more stress free flowing moments to enjoy.
*The previous newsletter reviewed a random noticing of five moments scattered during the day. When the same five activities are used each day the practice and its benefits deepens. Feel free to add additional random moments as they arise.

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The five 1 minute happiness breaks can be expanded with proportionate benefits up to and including a once a year celebration of happiness.
 
In the Jewish Tradition, as I interpret it, this is the High Holiday of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur.  This is a time of extended focus of introspection and connection to our deepest self and extending further through others, community and into the mysterious beyond.
About  10 years ago I was fortunate to be invited to join a group of students studying with Rabbi Akiva Mann.  A quick summary of this teaching, for me, has led me to be able to appreciate the seamless connection between the moment within the hour, the wave within the ocean and the spirit within everything.  That is to relax and soften into contact with more and more happy minutes.  And also to appreciate more of the diversity that surrounds us and to interconnect with it.
This year Rabbi Akiva will be leading High Holiday Services in Boca Raton.  He has assembled many decades of understanding that has melded into an ability to share his insights and teachings as a multidimensional experience of warmth and happiness, insight and understanding.
Rabbi Akiva and our community at IJKL invite you to join us for High Holiday Services.  If you have attended High Holiday Services before and wished you could have become more connected, more engaged and with more enjoyment this is the place to be for this years Service.

Start by selecting one minute for happiness five times a day and prepare for a High Holiday Service to open the Gate beyond Gates.

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Rabbi Akiva is IJKL’s founder and director.  He is an inspired leader and spiritual innovator.
He is recognized as a stimulating educator, lecturer and Judaic scholar.  Rabbi Akiva is well known for his ability to distill the vastness of Jewish wisdom – both mystical and traditional, into comprehensible and penetrating concepts. His teachings are appreciated for their intellectual, spiritual and emotional power.
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I would like to send you a happiness gift from http://www.Blurb.com.
It is a complementary copy of my new ebook
           
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It is fun, creates happiness and is challenging.
I hope you enjoy it and know you will be successful.
Please contact me if you have any questions, comments or difficulty opening the ebook.
Happiness Deja Vu 14 Day Happiness Challenge illustrates 14 daily experiential inspirational picture sparks allowing a return to happiness and joy again and again. With Happiness Deja Vu the duration of each experiential mindful moment of joy increases as the time between them decreases.
With practice this refreshing hum of happiness becomes palpable. Also, includes a Happiness Challenge. All photos and inspirational sayings are original.
The link below should go directly to the webpage for a complementary preview of the ebook.
If you would like me to send you a complementary copy of Happiness Deja Vu  14 Day Challenge to download simply reply to this email and I will send it.
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Happiness comes in drops
Thought matches body sensations

Trigger zone for happiness

You can have happiness now

Happiness & Sunshine 24×7
Start where you are
Generosity builds happiness

9-16-2010
Happiness a balance of opposites

Happiness a wave of energy
 
10-28-2010
Happiness a wave of energy
Happiness step by step
Wide eyes for happiness
 
Smiling eyes for happiness
1-27-2011
Edges of happiness
 
Polishing for happiness 
 
3-31-2011
Gaps of happiness
 
Decisions for happiness
 
Pivoting for happiness
 
 Stretch for happiness
 
7-7-2011
 
Pausing for happiness 
 
Oasis for happiness
 
Happiness says me
 
10-20-2-2011s
Silent Smiles
 
A story for happiness
 
Adventure for happiness
Fun for happiness
 
Sounds for happiness
 
Salad bar for happiness
 
Stretching for happiness
 
Starting over for happiness
5-31-2012
Circle back for happiness
8-2-2012
10-2-2012
for happiness
Choice for happiness
1-24-2013
4-5-2013

Letting go for happiness

 

8-23-2013 

Taming your habits for happiness

 

1-13-14 

Grandmothers for happiness

 

2-11-14 

Ice skating for happiness

 

2-12-2014 

From nothing to

happiness

 

3- 12-2014 

Walking in the rain for happiness 

 

5-6-2014 

Stringing moments for happiness

 

6-12-2014 

Isn’t that interesting for happiness

 

7-09-2014 

Adventure for happiness

 

8-20-2014 

Getting squeezed for happiness

1-20-2015

Dissecting for happiness

 

4-8-15 

Growing happiness

6-26-2015

Creating for happiness

Creating
June 26, 2015
 Dear Michael,   


Erector Set, Log Cabin, Mr. Wizard, Tinker Toys and Pinky Lee* were all, at least for me, about creating something big from little pieces of “stuff.”  It was fascinating and I still enjoy the entire process of creation which has now morphed into an adventure of happiness.

 

I invite you to continue reading below and hope you enjoy the exploration.

Michael Selzer DDS
 

*Yoo hoo, it’s me, My name is Pinky Lee. I skip and run with lots of fun For every he and she. It’s plain to see

Quick Changes
If you hold up this picture of sunflowers really close all you can see is flowers.  Right now, try to imagine being surrounded by a sea of sunflowers.  All you see in any direction is sunflowers swaying in response to the changing breeze.

It’s nice to begin a day by viewing flowers as they open to the sunrise.

Small Moments Of Happiness
Seeing flowers can remind us that everything is really a flower, an opening to an aspect of life.  A blooming flower exhibits the essence of that particular kind of flower.  An apple the essence of an apple tree, a tomato the essence of the tomato plant.  

 

In the same way a table, a chair, a computer everything starts as the idea that was born in someone’s mind and brought to reality.  The table is like a blooming flower of an idea (of a table).  Or actually the blooming of a seed of an idea in someone’s mind.  Within the seed may be just an inkling, a wish or dream.   

 

 

 A puppy’s perspective

                              
 

Seeing flowers is also a subconscious reminder of our own flower of life blossoming to life in this moment.  As we are right now is the flower of our life and dreams grown to this moment in time.
Flowers live short lives relative to the universe of things.  So do we;  Live Blossom Now.

 

Actions 

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1. Plant a seed

Water it daily

Watch for sprouts to show up

2. Or buy flowers and look closely each morning for       changes as you water them

3. List 3 projects or accomplishments etc that you       have done and the seed or thought they have           sprouted from.

4.  List 3 seeds you would like to start.  Review              each day for three days adding or subtracting            seeds.

5.  Choose one to start on the fourth day.