Secrets for Happier Life 4-22-2010

 

Secrets For A Happier Life: Ideas, Inspiration & Practices Quick Links   YouTube Visual Musical Secret    Joy Coaching     Boca Smile Center             I would love to hear from you      Share your happiness tips and see them in a future newsletter                                             Email Link                           (561)487-4555      Spread The Word Want to live around happier family and friends?    Smile of the Week        “Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory”    Albert Schweitzer Be Happy Now April 22, 2010 Dear Michael,        Welcome to Secrets For A Happier Life.    Like rain dripping into and filling a bucket, your life can become happier one drop at a time. For over 25 years I have gathered thoughts and experimented with practices related to increasing joy.  I am happy to share them with you.    Yogi Berra is reported to have said, “It’s like deja vu, all over again.”  Was he talking about our lives and how we  seem to be on a merry-go-round bumping into the same problems over and over again?  What does it take to step off into a new direction?   If he were asked how many psychologists it takes to change a light bulb Yogi might have answered, “only one, but the light bulb has to really want to change.”  Are you ready?  How is your light? Your happiness?   Right now what can you do to add another drop of happiness to your life?  Remember, happiness is a road you travel along, not a destination.  I invite you to begin with Small Moments of Happiness and Quick Changes below.    Yours truly,     Michael Selzer DDS   Small Moments Of Happiness   Notice that when you laugh you are happy. Notice especially that when you are laughing your whole body is moving. It’s in motion. You have stopped thinking, have let go and relaxed and allowed your body to move and shake. You are happy for at least that moment. And then like the ripples settling down in a pond the waves and motions of laughter settle back to our routine level of being. The trick to being happy is to have more small moments of happiness and then let the natural brain chemistry learn to stimulate this happy response more and more often.   Quick Changes   Right now recall a moment when you were happy. Expand the image of that or the sense of that moment of happiness. Make it big and bigger in your minds eye. Put it on a TV screen, a movie screen, an I-max screen.                                                                        Or, you can also pretend. That’s right, merely make up a good thought. It works just as well. The brain does not differentiate between real and pretend. It just registers a path for each thought. As you have more happy thoughts the path gets deeper and easier to access and reverberate with other thoughts. That’s it. Hold onto the awareness of happiness and let it soak into your body down into your finger tips and toes.    The trick is to continually just let go of unwanted thoughts and replace them with happier ones. Gradually the groove of happy thoughts becomes the routine.   Do this practice 3 to 6 times a day or whenever you realize that you are not as happy as you would chose to be. Allow the groove of happiness in the brain’s chemistry to get deeper and deeper.   Happiness: A Puppy’s Perspective   Or just take a puppy to the beach 1. More drops fill your bucket faster.  Every hour think ten happy thoughts.  They can be real or pretend.  The groove in the brain will get deeper either way.  For those old enough to remember that may be where, “it’s groovy” comes from.   2. When an unhappy thought comes up, immediately think the opposite.  Turn it into an opportunity to experience a happy thought when you most need it.  Again, its okay to pretend.   3. Before you fall asleep at night review happy thoughts.  Form an intention to continue filling your bucket with happy thoughts tomorrow.  As you sleep the brain continues to process the last conscious thoughts you have.   Upcoming topics in future newsletters *More on how to train your brain *How awareness to body sensations deepens happiness *How to enhance the good moments of each day

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Your late. Your frustrated. Your just not quite at ease. Your okay but you have felt more connected. Your aware of remembering a higher state of consciousness. You notice it is taking more and more words to describe your connection to life. Imagine jumping out of an imaginary plane (of course with a parachute). Your intention is to drop the sensation of being late, frustrated, uneasy, disconnected or just not fully aware. As you jump from your imaginary plane you are holding tightly or actually stuck to one or more of the noted sensations. As you drop down you pull the rip cord and as the air pops the chute open and abruptly stops your free fall, for that moment the unwanted sensation drops away. You catch a glimpse through the clouds of the green and blue earth below. You have just a few seconds to connect with the billowing parachute and its soft free-floating descent before the memory of the unwanted sensation returns. As you are hanging on supported by woven silk threads there is not much to do but to let go or surrender. Enjoy the floating sensation, the weightlessness and the softness of the air is it brushes across your face. Notice the quiet and stillness. Stretch out as if you have wings and expand into the universe around you. Surrender into the moment. The memory of stress and strain is just that a memory. To be momentarily forgotten. Reconnect to the memory of your higher self. It is always there waiting to be the object of the light of your awareness. As you are slowly descending imagine you, are motionless, and the earth is rising up to meet you. Develop the ability to see things from both sides, from more than one point of view. Take in, absorb the memory of your higher self, breathe it in, feel its presence. Look down towards the earth notice from this vantage point the ability to see the tops of the buildings and the tops of people’s heads. Imagine x-ray type visionary thought to see into each person. Notice the conflicts and concerns as well as the pleasures and happiness all occurring at the same time. And mainly when seeing only from the ground level that we become caught in a maze of thinking, “what’s around the next corner? Will I be getting what I want or not?” Return to thoughts of your higher self; hang on the parachute is about to land you softly on the earth. What is the last thought you would like to remember before you land? *****************************************************************************   We are all familiar with earth and space gravity.  Everything pulls and attracts everything else towards it.  The earth is so large in size compared to all of the objects we come in contact with that everything seems to fall toward the earth.  Spiritual gravity is similar in that everything is pulled or attracted to the center of the Heart of the Universe.        SPIRITUAL GRAVITY a blog                 CLICK HERE for  8-9-17  Mountains Lakes and Happiness                  CLICK HERW for 9-6-2017  Lemons Goldilocks and Happiness                 CLICK HERE For 10-4-17 Smile Workout for Happiness                Click Here for  11-2-2017  Turning Inside Out For Happiness                   CLICK HERE FOR 2-18-2018   MEDITATION PENICILLIN   Alladin’s Closet House world 3-28-18    Wanting 6-18-2018   Potato Chips and Ice Cream 6-21-2018   Let Go And Be July 20 2018   Your Breath is more than air 8-30-2018   Flowing Zone 9-26-2018 Finding You 11-2018 Air That I Breath 12-27-2018   Habits Karma Meditation & Mindfulness  1-16-2019   There Is No Traffic Running Through Your Bedroom 2-6-2019       Click Here for archive of newsletters 2010-2017

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There is no traffic running through your bedroom 2-6-2019 Secrets For A Happier Life

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As I got out of bed this morning the sky was blue, the three days of rain in South Florida had stopped.   Out of thin air the thought, “there is no traffic running through your bedroom,” ran through my mind. At first it seemed clearly a reminder that there is an opportunity to relish and absorb the peacefulness of no “traffic.” And by taking it in deeply and holding its accompanying sensation it would become easier to recall it at times during the remainder of the day. I always had a similar awareness at the beach of no “traffic.” The beach was open, clear and before cell phones almost unreachable. That is until a family vacation to Daytona Beach in Florida. The sand there is firm, hard and dense enough to drive on the beach. There are parking areas, driving lanes and yes still areas for blankets and routine beach going. The problem was there was traffic. Not “traffic” but real actual traffic.   My kids were under 8 and even though they were cognizant and familiar of staying away from the water’s edge without being watched they were not accustomed to not being able to run willy-nilly on the sand. I was unable to comfortably close my eyes and absorb the sun rays as I kept one eye open for traffic. Everything worked out fine including the fireworks show until the one guy that parked too close to the water’s edge forgot about the tide coming in and found his back tires sunk down into the sand with the belly of his car against the ground and unable to do anything but wait for the tow truck. Stuff  like the tide and “traffic” comes up to meet us about half of every day; it along with taxes is unstoppable.   However, we can prepare. We can remember the tide will rise and that it will also fall. We can notice which way the wind and the tide is going. Which way is the traffic coming from. We can use the times especially in the early morning when there is no “traffic” in our bedroom’s to truly appreciate the stillness at the changing of the tide from sleep to being awake. Take some time about 17 seconds to fully absorb the quality of no “traffic.” For real traffic: Stop, look and listen has always been good advice. It’s a great habit but perhaps we can avoid being so cautious that we look both ways when crossing a one way street. *****************************************************************************   We are all familiar with earth and space gravity.  Everything pulls and attracts everything else towards it.  The earth is so large in size compared to all of the objects we come in contact with that everything seems to fall toward the earth.  Spiritual gravity is similar in that everything is pulled or attracted to the center of the Heart of the Universe.        SPIRITUAL GRAVITY a blog                 CLICK HERE for  8-9-17  Mountains Lakes and Happiness                  CLICK HERW for 9-6-2017  Lemons Goldilocks and Happiness                 CLICK HERE For 10-4-17 Smile Workout for Happiness                Click Here for  11-2-2017  Turning Inside Out For Happiness                   CLICK HERE FOR 2-18-2018   MEDITATION PENICILLIN   Alladin’s Closet House world 3-28-18    Wanting 6-18-2018   Potato Chips and Ice Cream 6-21-2018   Let Go And Be July 20 2018   Your Breath is more than air 8-30-2018   Flowing Zone 9-26-2018 Finding You 11-2018 Air That I Breath 12-27-2018   Habits Karma Meditation & Mindfulness  1-16-2019       Click Here for archive of newsletters 2010-2017

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