Secrets for Happier Life 4-22-2010

 
Secrets For A Happier Life: Ideas, Inspiration & Practices
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“Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory”

 
 Albert Schweitzer
Be Happy Now April 22, 2010
Dear Michael,   
 

 

Welcome to Secrets For A Happier Life. 
 
Like rain dripping into and filling a bucket, your life can become happier one drop at a time. For over 25 years I have gathered thoughts and experimented with practices related to increasing joy.  I am happy to share them with you. 
 
Yogi Berra is reported to have said, “It’s like deja vu, all over again.”  Was he talking about our lives and how we  seem to be on a merry-go-round bumping into the same problems over and over again?  What does it take to step off into a new direction?   If he were asked how many psychologists it takes to change a light bulb Yogi might have answered, “only one, but the light bulb has to really want to change.”  Are you ready?  How is your light? Your happiness?
 
Right now what can you do to add another drop of happiness to your life?  Remember, happiness is a road you travel along, not a destination.  I invite you to begin with Small Moments of Happiness and Quick Changes below. 
 
Yours truly,  
 
Michael Selzer DDS

 

Small Moments Of Happiness
 

Notice that when you laugh you are happy. Notice especially that when you are laughing your whole body is moving. It’s in motion. You have stopped thinking, have let go and relaxed and allowed your body to move and shake. You are happy for at least that moment. And then like the ripples settling down in a pond the waves and motions of laughter settle back to our routine level of being.

The trick to being happy is to have more small moments of happiness and then let the natural brain chemistry learn to stimulate this happy response more and more often.

 

Quick Changes
 

Right now recall a moment when you were happy. Expand the image of that or the sense of that moment of happiness. Make it big and bigger in your minds eye. Put it on a TV screen, a movie screen, an I-max screen.
                                                                      

Group  SmilesOr, you can also pretend. That’s right, merely make up a good thought. It works just as well. The brain does not differentiate between real and pretend. It just registers a path for each thought. As you have more happy thoughts the path gets deeper and easier to access and reverberate with other thoughts. That’s it. Hold onto the awareness of happiness and let it soak into your body down into your finger tips and toes. 

 

The trick is to continually just let go of unwanted thoughts and replace them with happier ones. Gradually the groove of happy thoughts becomes the routine.

 

Do this practice 3 to 6 times a day or whenever you realize that you are not as happy as you would chose to be. Allow the groove of happiness in the brain’s chemistry to get deeper and deeper.  

Happiness: A Puppy’s Perspective
 

Or just take a puppy to the beach
Austen Eating Sand
1. More drops fill your bucket faster.  Every hour think ten happy thoughts.  They can be real or pretend.  The groove in the brain will get deeper either way.  For those old enough to remember that may be where, “it’s groovy” comes from.
 
2. When an unhappy thought comes up, immediately think the opposite.  Turn it into an opportunity to experience a happy thought when you most need it.  Again, its okay to pretend.
 
3. Before you fall asleep at night review happy thoughts.  Form an intention to continue filling your bucket with happy thoughts tomorrow.  As you sleep the brain continues to process the last conscious thoughts you have.

 

Upcoming topics in future newsletters

*More on how to train your brain
*How awareness to body sensations deepens happiness
*How to enhance the good moments of each day

 

 
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Stop Listen Look Secrets For A Happier Life 8-16-2019

SECRETS FOR A HAPPIER LIFE
ARE YOU ENJOYING THIS MOMENT …RIGHT NOW?
Ring a bell
Stop – for a moment and fully
 
Listen  – to the sound as it softens
 
Look – all around up and down and see what is happening right now
 
During your day sounds are all around.  Some of the sounds attract your attention; for a moment. The honk of a cars horn, the engine of a huge truck, the screaming of a child, the soft whoosh of a breeze, the refrigerator just as it goes off.  Each time you become aware of any sound.
 
Stop
 
Listen
 
Look
 
Take a moment to be with the present moment just as it is.  Flow into the now of your life.  Use the sounds around to let go of the continual chatter in your head of what you need to do later and what you might have done differently yesterday.
 
Enjoy each moment to its fullest as if it were the first sip of an ice cream soda or the first crunch of a potato chip.  Don’t hold on.  Let it go. Do not become attached. Then move on to the next sound that comes into your awareness.  Gradually extend these moments into your day as it becomes filled with more and more of now.
 
Might as well enjoy “Now” you are always in it anyway.
 
P.S.  Remember the “Sounds of Silence” when noticed may be even more helpful.

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We are all familiar with earth and space gravity.  Everything pulls and attracts everything else towards it.  The earth is so large in size compared to all of the objects we come in contact with that everything seems to fall toward the earth.  Spiritual gravity is similar in that everything is pulled or attracted to the center of the Heart of the Universe.        SPIRITUAL GRAVITY a blog
 
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Open Free Dropping Sticky Mind 7-16-2019

SECRETS FOR A HAPPIER LIFE
 
ARE YOU ENJOYING THIS MOMENT …RIGHT NOW?
I used an old band-aid the other day. It worked fine but my finger remained sticky for hours after I took it off. It felt so much freer when it finally was gone. I could touch things again without that sticky feeling following me around.
Sometimes my mind is also free of all of the “sticky thoughts” that cling to it and feels fuzzy. Sometimes my mind feels free.
Can you describe the state of mind that is free from clinging?
Where there is no stickiness nothing grabbing at your mind. Just like that feeling of stickiness on your fingers and you finally get it off and you can touch things without feeling that stickiness. Or when your mind can touch the experience that is coming in from the sense windows without clinging to something else at the same time. That pure direct experience uncluttered by stickiness to something ; whether it is a lingering thought of the past or a projected thought of the future.
The stickiness can be a leftover worry, a concern, a memory anything which is different than the sense window experiences of sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell and even thoughts. Anything that divides even the slightest amount of your attention away from just, seeing, hearing, smelling, touching or tasting.
Can you imagine a pure un-sticky experience?
What would that state of mind feel like?  What is the experience of being open and free? Can you surrender to the experience can you open to that experience?   Does it have characteristics of body awareness sensation. Is it an open mind sense of freedom? Like, the feeling when the air is so pure or the water so clear or the music just so that,   “I can just hang out all day” from a mind/body standpoint. When the body feels weightless, airy, no pressure comforting and floating.
For one minute or perhaps for merely 10 seconds (right now) just be. Just for one full slow breath. As you breath in allow only the thought and sensation of breathing in and only the thought and  sensation of breathing out. Especially the release of the breath as it flows out all on its own. Being completely free and open.
Okay take one more breath and then back to work.

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We are all familiar with earth and space gravity.  Everything pulls and attracts everything else towards it.  The earth is so large in size compared to all of the objects we come in contact with that everything seems to fall toward the earth.  Spiritual gravity is similar in that everything is pulled or attracted to the center of the Heart of the Universe.        SPIRITUAL GRAVITY a blog
 
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                 CLICK HERW for 9-6-2017 
                CLICK HERE For 10-4-17
               Click Here for  11-2-2017 
                 CLICK HERE FOR 2-18-2018 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Announcing
SPIRITUAL GRAVITY
a blog
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